When you are experiencing burn out..
It would be nice if none of us ever experienced burn out. But that is unrealistic. Burn out is a real thing and happens to many people. We can experience emotional burn out, mental burn out, spiritual burn out or even physical burn out. When we experience burn out it is very important to recharge and renew ourselves. So that we can function in a way that allows us to enjoy our beautiful lives. I have found a few things in my life that help me renew myself when I am feeling burned out. They have always seemed to help. I want to share these with you. If there is a time you start feeling like you can’t face whatever it is you are facing anymore, whether it is your job, your relationships, or whatever it may be, I hope you stop and try one or all of these things to help renew yourself. There are things that we can do in our everyday life that can help prevent burn out but I will talk about those later. Right now I want to talk about what to do when you have already reached that point.
TAKE A VACATION
There was a time in my life where I thought that I shouldn’t take a break or a vacation. That it was selfish of me. However, recently I have figured out that in order to recharge myself when I have reached my breaking point I HAVE to take a vacation. I mean it is absolutely vital to my health and the health of my family that I give myself breaks. When I say vacation, it could mean a variation of different things. There is the most obvious vacation from your job. My job is childcare. I absolutely love children and I love the children I work with. However, if I didn’t allow myself to take a vacation, whether it was a week or two off a year, or a vacation day here or there, then I would become burned out faster than you can say the words. We have all been there in our jobs. I don’t think I have ever met a person who can tell me they have never wanted to quit their job because of burn out. If you are that person I want to meet you! Regardless how much you love your job, don’t feel selfish for taking a break from it.
It is also important to take a break from your family and/or children sometimes. I know we all want to be super mom. We want to be the mom who says “me? I never need a break from my kids.” But that’s a lie and we all know it. I love my kids but I can’t be with them 24/7.I need to get away and get some me time. When I am feeling burned out from being a mom or a wife, I need to take a step back and say “I am going out for a while, see you in a few hours (or days if I need to!) I can come back refreshed and ready to face the tasks that lay ahead of me as a mom and wife.
Another area I sometimes feel burned out in is housework. Some women love housework. Some women hate it. But if you feel overwhelmed by it then I suggest to you to allow someone else take the reigns for a while. This can also apply to any daily task like paying bills, getting kids ready for the day, etc. Sometimes I need to say to my husband “baby, I am feeling really tired and overwhelmed by my daily tasks lately, can you please take over for me?” Now I know not everyone is blessed with a spouse like mine who will step right in and help me out. But if you have been or if there is someone else in your life who is willing to help don’t be afraid to ask. You will thank yourself later.
My alone time with Christ is very important to me. I spend time alone with him every morning before my day starts and when I make it a priority then I feel as though my day always goes so smooth. However, sometimes amidst the business of life my daily devotional life and time in prayer gets shorter or neglected all together. It is during those times that I realize my life is starting to feel a lot more hectic and harder than normal. I start feeling wearier and more like throwing in the towel. It is then that I need to get back into my prayer closet and make my time with God a priority. God can and will uplift our spirits if we just ask. Time with him can do wonders on a spirit that is burdened and crushed under the weights of this life. Time in prayer does not have to be long and elaborate. It can be short and simple if that is what you can do. Five minutes is better than no minutes. God just wants us to spend time with him. He doesn’t demand a certain amount of time. If you are feeling overwhelmed and burdened then go into your prayer closet and cry out to God. It can and will help lift you up.
I have always found it helpful in the midst of burn out to remember why it is that you are doing what you are doing. For example, those dishes you are washing? Your children and you have just eaten a filling meal. Laundry piling up? You and your family have warm clothes to wear. Is your job becoming burdensome? Think about the family you are providing for. There are so many things to be thankful for. Counting your blessings truly brings into mind a new perspective to your current circumstances. Keeping the WHY to the forefront of our minds help ward off weariness. It allows us to remember the reasons that our lives are so blessed.
Above I wrote about remembering why we do things. I also think it is important to evaluate. If something in your life is causing burn out and it can be changed then it may be a good option to change it. For example, Do you completely hate your job and wonder why you are doing it? Is there a different option for you and your family that will still allow you to meet your needs? If there is something in your life that can be changed for the better than do it. Do you need to switch jobs? Stay home and be a stay at home parent? Work on your marriage? Create a new routine for your family? Maybe moving to a different house or state is on your radar and is a needed change. Whatever it is, evaluating your life and what is causing you burn out is very important.
These are just a few things that I have done in my life when I have experienced burn out that have helped me. I encourage you, if you are overwhelmed and burdened, please try one or all of these to help yourself and your family. Use these tips to help get back to where you need to be in order to enjoy life and the season you are in. Are there some things that you do when you are feeling burned out to help renew yourself? Please leave a comment below and share!
Until next time!