Peaceful Home. Peaceful Family. Peaceful Life.
Part one: When you have to make the hard decisions.
Over the next couple of weeks join me as I share with you a series of posts that have been on my heart. The series is titled Peaceful home. Peaceful family. Peaceful life. I will share with you the journey I have been on discovering what it means to have a peaceful home, family, and life. The steps you can take to achieve peace, why having a peaceful life is important and what God says about peace. To start off the series I want to share with you sort of a prelude into the series.
When you have to make a hard decision.
If you ask my husband he would tell you that I am probably the most indecisive person he has ever met. When we go out to eat I have a difficult time helping him decide where to go. Maybe it’s because I don’t like being selfish and I want to eat where I know everyone would like. Do any of you have a difficult time making decisions? I try. I really do. To be more decisive. But when I am faced with a decision often times I dwell on it way to long. Afraid of making the wrong one. There has been a few times in my life where I have been faced with a difficult decision. The hardest decision I was ever faced with the Lord took out of my hands and made the decision for me. It was when my son’s heart had stopped beating. The doctors brought him back but he had been down for far too long. The doctor on call told me I had to make a decision. I could leave him on the machines but there was no guarantee that he would have much of a life, he could possibly be brain dead because of being gone for so long. Or I could unhook the machines and hold him while he passed on. I couldn’t decide in that moment because I already felt like my heart was outside of my body. A couple of minutes later the Lord took that decision from me and chose to take him home. I was both relieved and heartbroken in that moment. Relieved that I didn’t have to make the decision and heartbroken that it wasn’t the decision I wanted. I am no stranger to being faced with a hard decision. So what do you do when you are faced with a hard decision? When you have to make a decision that will affect other people? When you aren’t quite sure what will happen when you make the decision?
My husband recently went to a prayer meeting where our Pastor said something that really helped me see decisions differently. He said that when we have to make a decision we need to pray the Lord gives us the decision. We can’t make the decision and then pray the Lord blesses it. We have to pray that he shows us what the right decision is.
Over the past few months I have been faced with a decision that was difficult to make. I fretted over it. Thought about how it would affect my family. Fretted over how it would affect other people. Worried and fretted some more. You see my family is the most important thing the Lord has ever blessed me with. I work from home so that I can be with my children and raise them in the Lord. My husband and I decided a couple years ago that we are going to homeschool our children. But I realized months ago that in order for me to homeschool my children effectively it needs to be my main focus. So the decision came down to earning extra income or losing income and going back to being a SAHM. But I had a hard time seeing how losing income would be beneficial to my family. But I knew in my heart that raising my children to love God, being present to teach them and help them learn was the most important job I could ever have. I allowed this decision to consume me and worry me way to long. But I have learned a few things through all of this. So what do you do when faced with a hard decision?
Pray the Lord gives you the decision. Don’t make a decision and then pray that he blesses it.
One reason I had a hard time making my decision was because I had already made up in my mind that I had to work. It’s just merely too hard to make it in today’s society unless the wife works right? But that’s not true. After my husband shared with me what our Pastor said at the prayer meeting I knew I had been trying to make the decision and pray it was the right one. We cannot do that. I did not have any peace in the decision I had already made. That was how I knew I was trying to force my decision. Is there a decision you have to make? Did you pray the Lord shows you the right decision or did you make it without seeking God first? Pray God gives you guidance to make the right one.
Pray God gives you peace after he gives you your decision.
When the Lord gave me my decision, which was to go back to being a SAHM and focus on raising my children as well as beginning homeschooling, I instantly felt peaceful. I had known it was the right decision because of the enormous sense of peace God gave me. I hadn’t realized how much anxiety I was feeling until after I made my decision. But peace followed and that is how I want to live my life. Is there something you’re facing today? Is it a difficult decision? Pray God gives you peace after he gives you your decision. When you feel peaceful you will know the right decision has been made.
Pray God shows those in your life guidance in the decision as well.
Yes, the decision was ultimately mine but it was going to affect my entire family. This was why I needed to seek my husband’s guidance and wisdom. I prayed God would show my husband if I was missing anything from him. I was blessed with a very supportive husband. He would support me in any thing I decide but when I made my decision he knew it was the right one because God had told him it was as well. He just allowed me to figure it out first. Is there someone in your life that you can ask God to give guidance to help you? Do it. It is always nice to have someone praying for you in case you miss something from the Lord.
In life we are often faced with difficult decisions but seeking God in prayer is exactly what we need to do when we are. It is on our knees where we will find peace. A peaceful home. A peaceful family. A peaceful life is what I desire. And that starts with me seeking after God in the the big things and in the hard decisions.
” And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus. ” Philippians 4:7
“Let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts, since as members of one body you were called to peace. And be thankful.” Colossians 3:15
Those are just two scriptures God gives us on living a peaceful life. The word of God is filled with many more. He desires to give us his peace. It is up to us to seek it. It is up to us to ask him for help and guidance in the big and hard things so that we can start or continue living a peaceful life.
Until next time!