Do you ever wonder if you are making the right decisions regarding your children? yourself? Your family?
I know I am not the only one. It is most likely that every parent struggles with this thought. Before we have children most of us are responsible for ourselves and ourselves only, as adults. As soon as our children come into this world every decision we make affects them in some way, either directly or indirectly. As my daughters grow older I have realized more and more that this is so true.
It starts at the beginning.
Are you going to breastfeed or formula feed?
Are you going to co-sleep or have them sleep in their own room?
Make their food or feed them store bought?
Stay at home or go back to work?
Send them to public school, private school, or home school?
Allow them to watch television or keep a tight reign on their electronic use?
Honestly all the decision making can become quit exhausting.
But it has to be done. I could tell you the decisions my husband and I have made for our children (together) but it doesn’t matter. Because those are decisions that are best for our family. Your family may need different things.
Even as a Mom it can become easy to question if these decisions you have made truly are BEST for your kids and family. What do you do then when that happens?
I know that this happens because it’s happened to me more than once. The truth is you’re not perfect. No one is. You will make mistakes and chances are you will make the wrong choice a couple of times. But for those major decisions? I suggest you do a few things if you’re struggling with whether or not you are making the right choice for your child. Or even for yourself.
- Pray diligently. God calls us to pray constantly. If you haven’t already, start by praying that God gives you direction in the decision you need to make.
- Talk it over with your spouse. I don’t make any major decision without my husband’s input. It is important to me. Because any decision I make will affect him as well. When I quit working at the beginning of the year, I didn’t quit on a whim. I discussed it with my husband in depth for several weeks before I made the final decision. If there is something on your heart but you’re not sure if it’s right, talk to your spouse. He/She is your partner after all.
- Look for the peace. This. God will give you peace when you make a decision. You should pray for him to give it and then look for it. When my husband and I were deciding between public school or home school education for our children, we went back and forth. When we considered public school education I didn’t feel any peace about it. Neither did he. I actually felt quit anxious about sending them to public school. But after we talked it over again and decided home school education was right for us and for them, it was like a weight was lifted off our shoulders. I truly believe if you look for the peace you will find it in the right decision.
These are just a few things that I have discovered in making decisions. It can be difficult. Everything you do will effect you, you’re family, and your children directly or indirectly. So do not take your decision-making lightly. If you are trying to make a major decision right now pray about it. Talk to your spouse. Then look for the peace. After doing these things I wholeheartedly believe the right decision will become clearer to you and your family.